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What To Do If Someone Asks If You Like Your Crush

Heya playa, I have a question for you. If your crushes friend asked you if you liked your crush, would you say yes or would you say no? Surprisingly most people say no even though they do have a crush on someone. So how do you answer yes to that question without it being awkward and weird? I’ll tell you how right after this.


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Personally, I think the right thing to do is to say “yeah, I like them” but that may not always be the easiest thing to say. Think about it like this, by saying you don’t like your crush or flat out denying it, you only make it harder to build attraction with them later on.

Once they think you don’t like them they may start to lose interest in the possibility of you two being together. Most of the time if your crush’s friend asks if you like them, they’re doing it for one of several reasons.

  1. Your crush likes you back and wants to know where you stand.
  2. They may not actually like you back and may just be messing with you.
  3. They’re not sure where they stand but knowing where you stand may help sway their decision.

The best way that I’ve learned to be straight forward about what you want to say is to think ahead about how the news is gonna get back to them. If it’s for one of the three reasons, then simply standing up for how you feel is gonna make you look incredibly confident in front of them.

What tends to happen a lot in middle school and high school is that kids will run with that information and spread it around like a rumor. They turn it into something negative as if its bad for liking someone and you’re bad for doing it. Nothing can be further from the truth though. Being genuine and honest is perhaps the coolest thing you can do. However, you don’t want to just verbally lay out your feelings for your crush.

You’re much better off showing them how you feel and eventually asking them out. And if you do freeze up and say something like “No, I don’t like them. Where’d you get that idea from?”, the best way to recover is to change your approach when you talk to your crush and to be way more engaging with them. Yes, your words from before won’t really match up with your actions now but your actions now will speak far louder than your words.

What do you think though, have you ever been asked by someone if you like your crush? How did you respond? Leave your comment below and we’ll talk about it.

Don’t worry, we’ve all been in that type of situation before. It’s not the end of the world you did not completely blow your chances. Just make sure your next move is a smart one. Remember, your goal here is to eventually go out with them. So don’t hurt your chances before they begin.

As always guys, love and peace.


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I Was Bullied Growing Up! (How I Dealt with Bullying)

Heya playas, growing up I was never really one of the popular kids and because of that I was often bullied from time to time. So what I want to share with you today are a few different instances of how I was bullied and how I dealt with it. In each of these stories, I handled these situations in completely different ways but I’ll explain more, right after this.


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I wanna jump all the way back to elementary school. Now, there was a kid that was known around the school as being the one that always got in trouble, always bullied others and was just recognized as that kind of kid. And it seemed like out of nowhere his younger brother also followed in his footsteps and became the next in line to bully the kids. Bullying for them seemed to run in the family which led me to believe that there was probably more going on for these bullies at home.

But I didn’t understand that when I was younger, you see, this bully would pick on me during lunch. He’d come over to my table, he’d grab my food, he’d call me names, he’d throw things at my back when I wasn’t looking. I never even interacted with this kid and he found the need to continue to harass me simply because, that’s kind of what bullies do sometimes.

He kept doing this day after day after day until eventually I got so frustrated, I turned around and told him “look, if you don’t stop, I’m going to tell on you”. And that was the problem there, no one likes to be snitched on, especially the bully that’s causing the problem. So he decided to threaten to beat me up if I told on him which I decided to tell the teacher anyway. And because of this whole fiasco, we both got called into the principles office and they left us to sit together, alone in the principals office.

As we sat there, eventually we started talking and he opened up to me and said he didn’t want to get in trouble because his parents would really take it out on him. So I told him I would do my best to not escalate the situation as long as he stopped picking on me which he eventually agreed to do.

Jumping into middle school though, I handled my bullying situation a lot differently. In middle school though there was this tiny little kid who hung out with these really big tall kids so he found himself being the king of the block being able to bully anyone he wanted because his friends always had his back.

Now this was a kid I never interacted with. Sure he was in my grade but we weren’t in the same classes so I never really talked to him but I knew he was a trouble maker and one day he decided to be leaving the lunch room when he decided to pick up a sandwich that was either on the floor or he had and just chucked it in the air and it ended up hitting me in the back of the head. So when I turned around to figure out: A. What hit me? and B. Who threw it? I saw him standing there with his friends laughing at me saying “dude, what are you gonna do about it?”.

Now I don’t think this was the best way to handle it but it’s what I did. As he was walking outside of the lunch room, I went up behind him and I shoved him as hard as I could into the wall. He went flying forward and hit the wall face first. He turns around and lunges at me so we start wrestling on the table. And as he’s throwing these wild haymaker punches at me, I end up grabbing his arm and twisting it behind his back and then pinning him down against the table.

Surprisingly, none of his friends had come to interfere. Instead everyone just kind of stood around in a circle and watched. So I pinned him down against the table and said, until a teacher comes over, I’m not letting you go. Eventually a teacher came over, I explained what happened and told him I defended myself when in reality I went back and attacked him, the whole thing ended up getting dropped and nothing else happened for both of us.

Both of those stories are two totally different ways from how I handled verbal bullying in high school. In High School, I had the biggest crush on Hilary Duff, I would keep pictures of her in my notebook and look at it every single day. So one day this tough gangsta looking kid comes over and starts making fun of me for liking Hilary Duff. He started to call me a range of different insults from you’re a faggot, you’re gay, you’re stupid, you have sex with your mom, everything that you can think of to try to get under my skin.

So I sat there thinking, why is he saying this and why does it bother him so much? It’s got nothing to do with him. As he kept going on and on with the insults he asked me, what do you have pictures of Hilary Duff on your walls at home too? So I told him and said “yea, I have a poster of Hilary Duff on my wall. What posters do you have on your wall?”. So he said to me, “yo I ain’t gay like you. I got a poster of 50 cent on my wall”.

So I stopped and thought about it for a second, and then told him. The picture of 50 cent where he’s sitting there all greased up and shirtless? You have a picture of a greased up shirtless man on your wall and you’re saying all these things about me? And then he stopped, and thought about it for a second, called me an asshole and then walked away. Now I wasn’t trying to be offensive in any way, I just wasn’t sure why he was so adamant about trying to make me feel bad for liking something that he didn’t.

And that’s when I realized bullies act from a place of insecurity. And whether it was elementary school, middle school or high school for me, each of these people needed to display power to feel valuable. Now I don’t know which of the three scenarios was the right way to handle it, should I have told I was gonna tell on him, should I have fought him or should I have just fought him at his own game, I don’t really know. But what I do know is that there’s no easy way to handle a bully and all throughout my life, I’ve had to deal with them.

And I’m pretty sure some of you have had to deal with them too so, leave a comment below and let me know your bully stories and how you handled them.

Bullies man, I’ll tell ya. Just remember that every single bully has a story behind why they’re acting like a jerk. So don’t always look at it at face value recognize that there’s more than you maybe don’t know right now.

As always guys, love and peace.


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5 Ways to NOT Have a BORING Summer

Heya playa, now that it’s the summer you don’t have to worry about going to school, taking tests or even waking up early for the next few months. However, there is a very high chance that you will end up bored sitting at home doing nothing all day long. How do you prevent that kind of boredom from ruining your summer? I’ll share those tips right after this.


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Now that you have no excuse to not play video games all day long and to stay up to 3 in the morning, you probably think you have the life right now. But after a week of doing the same thing over and over, it’s very likely that you’re gonna get bored and you’re gonna need a change of pace so you don’t go crazy.

#1: Do something that is refreshing go through your room and change up the style of it.
Bag up old clothes that you don’t wear anymore, put away things that you just don’t use, changing up the scenery that you’re gonna spend the majority of your summer in will make you feel like it’s a brand new experience and that new experience will keep you from getting bored of seeing the same thing every single day.

Plus, cleaning up a lot of the clutter that’s been built up in your room cause you haven’t had a chance to get to it because of school will make you feel like you can start the new year in a fresh and clean place.

#2: Do something that is creative.
Now, I’m not trying to influence your decision here but why not make a YouTube channel and make videos all summer long? And if not that, there are plenty of other things you could still do like drawing, writing a story or even recording a movie for just you and your friends. Sitting and watching tv all day long is a complete brain drain so try to think of fun and creative ideas to get your brain juices flowing.

#3: Do something that is active.
At least when you were in school you were walking to and from class and not just sitting all day pressing buttons on a control with your fingers. So, really try to make time to do something active. Whether it’s going for a walk, hitting up a beach or a pool or even just playing any kind of sport with your friends. Not to mention just sitting at home means you’re missing out on the fresh air, the warm sun, the beautiful outdoors all for a few more hours on your Playstation.

#4: Do something that is social.
Now, not everyone has this ability to go meet up with their friends whenever they want. Sometimes during the school year is the only time you really get to see them. But, you can try to organize bigger events with lots of people all at once by speaking to your parents, having them speak to theirs that way you guys can go out to the movies, go out bowling, or just hit up the mall together.

Sitting indoors by yourself with no one to talk to all day long will leave you bored and alone. So try to keep in contact with your friends any way that you can whether that’s having a group chat going or Snapchatting them once in a while. Heck, you can even contact your crush and try to keep in contact with them throughout the summer.

#5: Do something that is relaxing.
Now I know, pigging out in front of the TV all day long with the air conditioner running may sound incredibly relaxing, but I have an alternative approach. Being a couch potato usually causes you to turn your mind off. So instead what I would suggest doing is something with no distractions. That may be sitting in your room alone, relaxing and not listening to music or anything that would bother you.

Sometimes sitting in silence or just listening to the natural sounds around you can be the most peaceful experience you can have. And gaining that peaceful experience will cause you to be present minded and very very appreciative and grateful of what you have in that moment. Watching tv doesn’t really give you time to just slow down, stop and just be. And not having any distractions at all will allow you experience that exact feeling.

What do you think though, how do you plan on not being bored this summer? Leave your comment below and we’ll talk about it.

As always guys, love and peace.


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