How do you handle social situations with strangers?
Heya playas, has anyone ever told you that you need to learn how to be more social? How does one act more social, does it mean having more friends or just being really good at talking to people? Well, we’ll find out right after this. When we think of social situations we picture people hanging out talking about fun stuff and just feeling comfortable.
And while that doesn’t sounds like it Â requires a lot of work, it can be quite difficult to accomplish. For people who are introverted they might find it extra hard to spend a lot of time around people because for them, gaining natural energy comes from being alone. But for extroverts, they prefer the company of others. So which are you, an introvert or an extrovert?
Either way, to be more social simply means to have the confidence to talk to others without feeling uncomfortable. So how do you gain that confidence, it’s gonna require a little bit of work. The first step is to get used to having conversations with everyone. They don’t have to be full on conversations, it could be as simple as making a remark about something that’s happening, saying hello and just asking them how their day is going.
The goal here isn’t to have one of those conversations spark into a real one. It’s to get you used to reaching out to people. A lot of times we hesitate to speak to people and we give ourselves time to make up an excuse as to why we shouldn’t do it. But by throwing yourself out there, you’ll get in the habit of talking to anyone. And anyone can be you’re classmates, your coworkers, even your crush.
If you want to see a more in depth explanation on how to have confidence, check out my video here where I go into more details on how to take actionable steps in being confident. Ok, so you’re talking to people and you’ve had a few awkward conversations, but how do you get over that uncomfortable feeling? Well, part of it is physical and part of it is mental. When you’re standing there in front of a stranger, your heart is pumping, your palms are sweating, you know those feelings are real.
And knowing that you’re actually experiencing that is reason enough to know that you’re conquering your fear. So think about that for a second, you’re using your state of fear to understand that you’re conquering your fear. That’s some Jedi mind tricks stuff right there. The mental preparation is all about knowing that the person that you’re speaking to is in their head as well. They’re wondering what you’re thinking about them, what they could say and how the whole conversation is going to go.
And sometimes people are just better at hiding it so it looks like they don’t feel anything at all. But the reality is, knowing that they’re just as nervous as you should give you the upper hand in feeling comfortable. What do you guys think though, how do you handle social situations with strangers? Leave your comments below so we can talk about it. If you truly want to feel comfortable and confident, you need to look deep inside yourself. Because you have the power to make incredible changes in your life, so get out there are start being social with people.
If you want a quick example of an opener, just walk up to a stranger and say “Hi are you?”. I didn’t say it was a good opener.