Have you ever been shot down by a girl for being a “nice guy”?
Heya playas, I think I stand for every single guy ever when I say this but not one of us want to be friend zoned. And yet for some reason some guys just can’t avoid it. The minute a guy finally tells a girl how he feels she hits him with those words “Let’s just be friends”. What’s wrong with these women? The truth is, there’s nothing wrong with them. You just came off like too much of a nice guy. That’s perhaps one of the worst things you can say to a guy, he’s a “nice guy”. Why do those words have such a dreaded meaning to them? I mean, why wouldn’t a girl want a guy that takes care of her, pampers her and does everything she asks him to?
Let’s see what my friend Nikki had to say. Some guys are too nice and they maybe feel that if they’re overly nice the girls going to end up liking them, which a lot of the time you know they end up getting used, you know, if they give too much and spend a lot of money on the girl and she’ll take advantage of him. She’ll end up friend zoning him and that’s, I’m pretty sure most guys don’t want to end up there. You’re gonna become the girlfriend. You know instead of being, you know the guy that she wants to be with. You hear that guys? Being too nice causes the girl to walk all over you.
Sure, women want to feel courted. But only after you prove to her that you like her for her and not because you just think she’s hot. Women have this weird radar thingy that lets them know from the beginning of the conversation whether or not you’re a guy she wants as a friend or a guy she wants to fu-. If you see a girl and you’re looking to just hook up with her, make your intentions clear and make that first move. Don’t try to be harmless or passive. Those just aren’t attractive qualities. If you show her you’re afraid of her or afraid of being rejected by her, she will pick up on that and immediately shift you on over to the friend zone.
I think that most women want guys to make the first move because it shows his interest in her. I mean, even if he gets rejected if it’s maybe to soon to make a move you know, she’ll let him know if she’s interested or not at that point. I mean if you tried to go up and kiss a girl a little soon, she might say, you know, I don’t really know you that well. But if she’s not interested, she might make it very clear at that point and you would know and you could move on from there. A lot of guys first approach by buying the girl drink and that’s exactly where you go wrong. Here’s a stranger who showed up out of nowhere to buy you drinks to get you drunk.
That is just creepy! That’s exactly how the girls see’s it. She may take the free drink and probably have a brief conversation with you. But, that’s only because she feels bad. In her mind it works like this. I feel like the biggest mistake a guy makes when he’s approaching a girl, you know, like let’s say at a bar would probably be coming up and just offering her a drink without making any real conversation beforehand. I feel a lot of times girls will take the drink but then they’re just gonna go off and they’re not gonna really be interested just, they’re gonna be like alright, you know, I’m getting a free drink. But uh the she’s going to go off with her friends and you know that I, whatever. Dammit!
So if the alcohol thing doesn’t work, what should I say to her? It really has nothing to do with what you say, it’s all about what you do. Guys often shelter their real selves because they feel like it might be too much for the girl. Well, guess what. If you act like your fun, zany self who jokes around and isn’t too concerned about whether or not he’s impressing the girl that’s what’s gonna stop her from labeling you the nice guy. If you meet someone and they’re joking around with you you know, and it’s it’s you’re having a good time talking to them you’re gonna remember that more you know then some random person saying “Hey you’re pretty”. Well ok, I’m gonna walk away and I’m gonna smile.
Don’t come up with those cheesy lines. Hey ma, you know you’re beautiful you know, be bold, you know, you know. Be silly. Something she’ll remember. Like this video if you enjoyed watching Nikki break it down from a girls perspective on how to not be a nice guy. Leave a comment letting me know, has this ever happened to you? Have you ever been rejected for being a nice guy? And subscribe to the channel so you can see my other videos on what to do and what not to do when you’re talking to the ladies.
As always guys, love and peace.