Heya playas, I’ve gotten a lot of questions asking me to follow up on the topic of confidence and I couldn’t think of a better person to speak to you guys about it than my friend Evan Carmichael.
My name is Evan Carmichael from the YouTube channel ModelingTheMasters and my friend The Josh asked me to make a video about how to have more confidence. So today I’m going to share with you this simple trick that billionaire entrepreneurs use and I use to get more confidence.
That simple trick is live life with no regrets. I learned it from Jeff Bezos, he was the founder of Amazon.com. When he was young and first getting started in his career, he was a vice president at an investment bank. He was the youngest ever vice president at the bank and was on the fast track to success. And one day he decided to leave it all behind to start Amazon.com.
And people said “Jeff, you’re crazy! What are you doing? You have this high paying job, you’re making lots of money, you’re gonna be the next CEO of the business, why are you leaving to start this online bookstore? Who buys books online anyways?”. And he said what gave him the confidence to leave that high paying job was that he didn’t want to live his life in regret.
The simple exercise he does is he imagines himself as a 70 year old looking back on his life and he tries to look back at this specific moment that he’s experiencing right now. And he asks himself, will I regret this if I don’t say yes or if I don’t take this action? And that gives him the confidence to go forward. Now this happened to me in my personal life.
I remember when I was in university I went to Paris on a trip. And I remember standing outside the Notre Dame cathedral with my map trying to figure out where I was gonna go. And this cute girl comes up to me, see’s me with the map and starts asking me directions. So I helped her get to where she needed to go and I was secretly wishing that I would ask her for her number and ask her out and take her out for drinks. But instead I let her walk away. And in the back of my head I’m thinking Evan, you’re such an idiot. Come on, go chase after her.
So eventually I did but I couldn’t find her anymore. She had gone too far away. And I was kicking myself, angry that I let that opportunity slip away and I went back to the cathedral and took a picture of it. And when I got home I put that picture on my wall as a reminder not to live life with regret. Because as painful as it would have been for her to say no, I could have dealt with that.
What’s more painful is not knowing what would have happened. And so later on that year, there was this cute girl in class that I really wanted to get to know. We were in the same class so we talked every now and then but just kind of like hi bye kind of stuff. I really wanted to ask her out but I was too afraid. So then it came to the last day of class. It was exam day, it was my last day, I didn’t know if I’d ever see her again and I remembered that picture that was on my wall.
I remembered that I didn’t want to live my life in regret. And so I asked her out and she said yes and gave me her phone number. Now that worked out for me but she could have said no. And her saying no would have been better than me living the rest of my life not knowing what she would have said. So the next time you’re nervous or worried or don’t feel like you have a lot of confidence going into a certain situation, imagine yourself as a 70 year old person looking back at this specific moment in your life.
And if you don’t do what you want to do, will you live the rest of your life in regret? It worked for Jeff Bezos, it worked for me and hopefully it’ll work for you.