Heya playa, this is a video for both guys and girls. But I want to ask the girls out there a question. Have you ever liked a guy and wondered how you can get him to ask you out? I received that question from a lot of girls in the past and today I want to answer it.
Is it the best thing to always have the guy ask you out or is there a better way to go about it? I’ll answer that question right after this.
Guys should always ask girls out, period. End of discussion. That’s the right answer, right? Well, I would have to disagree because long gone are the days where only guys bring their feelings to the table first. In today’s day and age, girls are strong, girls are empowered, and girls have the ability to approach their crush just like any other guy does.
If you’re a girl that has set a bar where you only wait for guys to ask you out, then I think you might be setting yourself up for failure. Taking this passive approach is expecting that the guy is going to know how you feel and do something about it. Instead of focusing on dropping hints and giving clues, step up and start the initial conversation with them.
I’m gonna let you in on a little secret. Guys don’t mind if a girl wants to ask them out. In fact, in some cases most guys would prefer it. The simple reason for that is that it takes a lot of pressure off of their backs and levels the playing field out a little bit. Keep in mind you don’t have to just walk up to your crush and ask them out, you can start with something simple like just saying hi, waving to them or smiling. Hold on, that might be a little too much, a little too soon.
What do you do if you are shy though? Another little secret I’m going to let you in on, if you walk up to a guy and start talking to him, chances are he’s going to be a little bit shy about that too. It doesn’t matter how cool he may act, or even if he’s really good at covering it up. But, dealing with rejection and being able to move past it is something that will help us learn and grow from our experiences.
Here’s the thing, walking up to someone and talking to them, or even asking them out is the utmost sign of confidence. If you want to spend some time trying to figure out whether or not they like you back, the best way to gain a few brownie points is to spend time talking and interacting with them. Trust me, if a girl walks up to me and starts a conversation, I’ll be way more attentive and I’ll pay attention to everything she’s saying because that’s super confident.
Too many times girls will focus on little things like trying to get their friends to find out more information, or just spending time near the guy without actually talking to them. But, that isn’t the way to further your connection with them. In fact, all it does is normalize the fact that you guys are near each other and there’s no romantic chemistry going on. Plus by talking to them, the one thing you can finally lay to rest is overanalyzing.
It’s incredibly common for girls and guys to sit and meticulously analyze every little thing that they say and every little look that they give. But by simply talking to them and even asking them out, you’ll skip all the in between games that come along with finding out whether or not they like you and jump straight to your answer.
What do you think though, do you struggle with being cool in high school? Leave your comment below and we’ll talk about it.
At the end of the day we’re all people and we’re all a little bit afraid of facing things that are new to us. Don’t let the fact that you’re a girl or a guy or whatever you choose to be hold you back from going after your crush. Because gender is not a good excuse to not go talk to someone. Put your best self out there and show them how confident you really are.