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How To Be Cool in High School

Heya playa, if you’re in high school you might have come face to face with the question, how the hell do I become cool? There are tons of other kids who seem to already have that natural “it” factor, but is that something that’s natural or is it something that you can develop? I’ll explain that right after this.


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Being in high school is a beast in and of itself. People are splitting off into different cliques, girls and guys that you may like are not getting incredibly hot and there you are, just kind of standing there awkwardly in the middle of it all. It’s really easy to start comparing yourself to other people but lets really take a look at why these people are cool and what makes them that way.

One of the things that you’ll immediately notice about the cool kids is that they’re just so natural at going with the flow of things. Everything may look like it’s been put together so perfectly but the truth of the matter is, they run into just as many problems as you do. Their parents also won’t let them do things, they’re worried about friendships and relationships and studying for tests, just like you are.

The thing that cool kids have learned to master though, is assuming the power position of control and being able to manage the stress levels of people around them. If the cool kid assumes the leader position and has everyone feeling like they got this, then they’re definitely going to see him as the cool one to look up to. Having that feeling that everything is taken care of and you can just sit back and relax and not have to worry about things, allows them to just be cool in their own right.

Cool kids are also very keen on details. That means that they are incredibly perceptive on how people are thinking and feeling around them. Now I’m not gonna lie to you, part of being cool is being able to fit in. That means possibly dressing like everyone else, talking like everyone else and even acting like everyone else. But, if you really look deeper into those things, what you’re really talking about is building strong relationships that you can connect with people over.

Because really think about it, if you dress similar to someone else, you’re showing that you share that commonality, that you both think similarly and you can get along. The same goes for how you talk, music you listen to, movies that you watch, all of it is just displaying to someone that you can connect with them. So if you figure out how to connect with them without having to worry about those things, that’s really what you need.

Putting aside the people that are just jerks who like to bully people, generally everyone has something nice to say about the cool kid. Whether that they’re fun to talk to, they’re someone to look up to or they’re just cool. That’s why, straight up if you want to start being cooler tomorrow: start making conversations with people, start nailing good first impressions, and just overall be someone that people can open up to. And what about those kids who are jerks and bullies but are still cool? Why do people look up to them, what gives?

The reason people look up to those guys is because they individually have a yearning to be liked. It’s a psychological thing, if someone doesn’t like you for no reason really, then you’re gonna try your best to get them to like you. And because these jerks don’t even give you a second thought, you’re always reaching for their approval. That’s why I would suggest you don’t use those people as a model. I don’t care how many girls or guys they have following them around.

They are not a good example to follow. And the flip side of that is just being overall too nice and not having anyone see you as anything substantial. So the sweet spot is to really aim in the middle somewhere, don’t be too nice and don’t be too mean. In fact be a nice person, not a soft person.

Frankly, the most important thing to remember about being cool is the fact that no matter where you are on the totem pole, you’re always gonna somehow think someone else is cooler than you. Trust me on that one, I knew kids in high school that had all the girls liking them, but for some reason they thought the band kids were cooler. And the band kids thought that the video gamers were cooler. Everyone was constantly measuring themselves up against someone else. They always thought someone else was cooler.

What do you think though, do you struggle with being cool in high school? Leave your comment below and we’ll talk about it.

Do not be fooled into thinking that just because someone has a lot of Instagram followers or chats with a lot of people on Snapchat that they’ve made it to the top. Find out what your skills are, create a social environment where you can connect with others and forge your own path of coolness.

As always guys, love and peace.


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5 Ways to NOT Have a BORING Summer

Heya playa, now that it’s the summer you don’t have to worry about going to school, taking tests or even waking up early for the next few months. However, there is a very high chance that you will end up bored sitting at home doing nothing all day long. How do you prevent that kind of boredom from ruining your summer? I’ll share those tips right after this.


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Now that you have no excuse to not play video games all day long and to stay up to 3 in the morning, you probably think you have the life right now. But after a week of doing the same thing over and over, it’s very likely that you’re gonna get bored and you’re gonna need a change of pace so you don’t go crazy.

#1: Do something that is refreshing go through your room and change up the style of it.
Bag up old clothes that you don’t wear anymore, put away things that you just don’t use, changing up the scenery that you’re gonna spend the majority of your summer in will make you feel like it’s a brand new experience and that new experience will keep you from getting bored of seeing the same thing every single day.

Plus, cleaning up a lot of the clutter that’s been built up in your room cause you haven’t had a chance to get to it because of school will make you feel like you can start the new year in a fresh and clean place.

#2: Do something that is creative.
Now, I’m not trying to influence your decision here but why not make a YouTube channel and make videos all summer long? And if not that, there are plenty of other things you could still do like drawing, writing a story or even recording a movie for just you and your friends. Sitting and watching tv all day long is a complete brain drain so try to think of fun and creative ideas to get your brain juices flowing.

#3: Do something that is active.
At least when you were in school you were walking to and from class and not just sitting all day pressing buttons on a control with your fingers. So, really try to make time to do something active. Whether it’s going for a walk, hitting up a beach or a pool or even just playing any kind of sport with your friends. Not to mention just sitting at home means you’re missing out on the fresh air, the warm sun, the beautiful outdoors all for a few more hours on your Playstation.

#4: Do something that is social.
Now, not everyone has this ability to go meet up with their friends whenever they want. Sometimes during the school year is the only time you really get to see them. But, you can try to organize bigger events with lots of people all at once by speaking to your parents, having them speak to theirs that way you guys can go out to the movies, go out bowling, or just hit up the mall together.

Sitting indoors by yourself with no one to talk to all day long will leave you bored and alone. So try to keep in contact with your friends any way that you can whether that’s having a group chat going or Snapchatting them once in a while. Heck, you can even contact your crush and try to keep in contact with them throughout the summer.

#5: Do something that is relaxing.
Now I know, pigging out in front of the TV all day long with the air conditioner running may sound incredibly relaxing, but I have an alternative approach. Being a couch potato usually causes you to turn your mind off. So instead what I would suggest doing is something with no distractions. That may be sitting in your room alone, relaxing and not listening to music or anything that would bother you.

Sometimes sitting in silence or just listening to the natural sounds around you can be the most peaceful experience you can have. And gaining that peaceful experience will cause you to be present minded and very very appreciative and grateful of what you have in that moment. Watching tv doesn’t really give you time to just slow down, stop and just be. And not having any distractions at all will allow you experience that exact feeling.

What do you think though, how do you plan on not being bored this summer? Leave your comment below and we’ll talk about it.

As always guys, love and peace.


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How To Avoid an Argument with an Angry Person

Heya playa, do you ever found yourself trapped in a heated argument not knowing what to say, when it’ll end or how to escape? I’ve been in that situation plenty of times and now I want to share with you guys my simple tips for how to walk away from an argument right after this.


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People tend to argue for different reasons. Some people love to debate and discuss things while others argue for power and control in a conversation. If a person feels like they’re under a lot of pressure to do something that they don’t want to they may argue for themselves to regain control so they don’t have to do it.

Recognizing why a person is arguing is incredibly important because it helps you shape and understand where the conversation is going.

Sometimes though, it’s not until after the discussion that you realize what type of argument it actually was. When you’re pulled into an argument that you didn’t expect to have try to take note of a few things:

  • What you guys were talking about
  • How long you guys were talking about it for
  • What the person expressed
  • How they felt during the argument and how they walked away afterwards

If you’re talking about something that means a lot to you, it’s important to remember to stick to the viewpoints. Don’t allow the conversation to take a drastic turn and become personal. If the other person goes negative, that may lead to you going negative too and that just leads you on a whirlwind of calling them names, discrediting them or invalidating them because they’re emotional while they talk. Don’t forget the simple truth that neither of you guys are robots and at times, feelings will slip into the conversation.

Try your very best to avoid underhanded remarks, don’t make fun of their looks, their weight, their intelligence, anything like that because all you’ll end up doing is ending the conversation and causing both of you to walk away angry. Something to take note of is that when the other person is getting very heated, they’re either very very passionate about what they’re speaking about or they feel like they’re being attacked.

If they start going into defending themselves, or start saying things like leave me alone, you don’t know what you’re talking about or you’re an idiot and I can’t even listen to you, then you’ve hit a personal note for them. Be honest, have you ever gotten into an argument with someone where they ended up writing these long long paragraphs explaining why you’re wrong, why you should stop judging them and why you should mind your own business?

Or have you ever encountered someone who refuses to talk to you unless you go get educated and go learn about a certain subject without giving you the provided info you need to learn about it? That is a clear sign that they’re getting heated and the best way to deal with someone hot is to cool them down. Remember, your goal here should be to learn more so you want to aim at getting at the root of what they’re talking about. So don’t push them for details or force them to stay in the conversation just so you can get what you want.

The simple truth is that you aren’t automatically declared right just by proving them wrong. You can both walk away with exactly the same opinions you started the conversation with. Just make sure the biggest take away for you is really learning what their position is and where they’re coming from.

What do you think though, do you ever find yourself in the middle of heated arguments? How do you deal with them? Leave your comments below and we’ll talk about it.

One thing to remember is that people’s opinions are shaped by their environment and their experiences. The same goes for you, so always take the time to non-judgmentally stop and listen to someone else speak. That’s the best way to walk away with the widest frame of knowledge and understanding.

As always guys, love and peace.


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