Has your best friend ever liked your crush before?
Heya playas, have you ever liked a girl only to find out that your best friend likes her too? There’s nothing to worry about though, he’s gonna respect the bro code and not go after her right?… Right? This is The Josh Speaks. You’re watching The Josh Speaks. I’ve gotten a lot of comments about situations like this where a guy finds out that his best friend is going after the girl that he’s crushing on.
For those of you who don’t know the bro code is when you respect the fact that your friend likes a girl and assure him that you’re not gonna go after her behind his back. This code extends for all types of crushes, ex-girlfriends, and even girls that just recently rejected you. If your friend tells you that he feels uncomfortable with you asking out one of those types of girls, then it’s your duty as his best friend to step back and respect it.
A lot of times people aren’t vocal with their crushes, so if their best friend starts to get farther with the girl than they do, they’re gonna get upset about it. You know, just because the bro code exists doesn’t mean everyone’s gonna follow it. In reality, you can’t stop someone from liking someone else. We’re all human, and sometimes our desires take over and we don’t think logically about it.
Now if you’re friend chooses to go after the girl despite everything that you tell him, I’d re-evaluate that friendship. But for situations where your friend starts to develop feelings for the girl and you can’t help it, this is what you do. Sit down with your friend and honestly talk to them about it. Come to an agreement with what you guys can do if you encounter a situation like this. Are you splitting up who can go after which girl based on who saw her first, who talked to her first, or who asked her out first?
Also decide what’s more important to you, your friendship or your opportunity with the girl. Just because you want to be with a girl doesn’t mean she’s gonna wanna be with you. So if you do end up choosing the girl over your friend, understand that you might be running a lose-lose situation there. Don’t ever let a crush tear two friends apart. Sometimes if a person see’s that two best friends like them, they tend to string both of them along to see which one is going to be more loyal. Clear verbal openness is what you should be aiming for.
And the worst of all possible scenarios, but one that’s very real is that your crush ends up liking your best friend and the two of them decide to go out. This is a tough one, and there really is no easy way to get past it so the best you can do is learn to accept it. If they’re gonna be happy together then why deny them that right? You’re goal should be to find someone that can make you happy, not just someone that you think you want to be with. What do you guys think though, has your best friend ever liked your crush? Leave a comment below so we can talk about it.
No one has dibs on anyone else, so the only system we can rely on is the honor system. At the end of the day, don’t ever lie to your friends and sneak around behind their back just to get with their crushes because you would completely hate if that happened to you.