What’s holding you back from asking out the popular girl?
Heya playas, do you have this problem? She’s the hottest girl in school, everyone stares at her when she walks through the hallway, she’s funny, smart and beautiful. And she just happens to be your crush. Well, worry not. Because today I’m gonna teach you how to ask out the popular girl. Stop and answer this question.
When you think about asking her out do your Â thoughts lean towards her saying yes or her laughing in your face and saying no? If your answer is no then that’s the very first thing that we need to correct. The major problem with popularity is this disparity of class that people believe in. She’s the popular girl but what does that mean exactly? Maybe it’s the fact that she’s social, has a lot of friends and portrays the image that she has it all under control but I’m gonna let you in on a little secret. No matter who you are in school, every single person gets nervous and self conscious.
The jocks, the cheerleaders, the lab geeks, the nerds, every single person gets nervous. Being popular doesn’t exclude you from this, in fact being popular probably means you have more pressure on your plate. The pressure to look good, to feel good, to do good in school. It can be quite overwhelming. The secret technique of talking to anyone popular then is to talk to them like they’re a normal person.
When people start to praise you, you begin to take on the role of being praised. You start to feel likeyou have an advantage over others whether its looks, smarts or swag. But if you strip away that “power” from the person and talk to them like you would anyone else, they’ll be more inclined to listen to you because they’re not used to people talking to them like that. Think about it, a guy going up to a girl and saying “Hey uh, you’re just like really beautiful and popular.
Would you ever consider going out with a guy like me? I mean you don’t have to if you don’t want to” adds to this popularity hierarchy that’s purely created, it doesn’t really exist. But how do I get over my nervousness when talking to her, she’s just so beautiful? This whole concept of leagues and girls being out of your league totally falls flat when you choose to push past the whole idea. An example of this would be to walk right up to the popular girl, right past all of her popular friends, look her dead in the eyes and say”what’s up”.
It sounds really intimidating I know but think about what she’s gonna feel. No guy ever does that to her, ever. And by standing out from the rest of the guys who just casually look at her whenever they can, she’s gonna pay attention to you. If you’re interested in learning exactly what to say when she’s standing right in front of you, Â check out my video here where I share what I believe are to be the perfect conversation openers. What do you guys think though, why do you believe that you can’t get the popular girl? Leave your comments below so we can talk about it.
Don’t get me wrong though, when I was in school I was pretty damn scared too. So scared that I never even tried to talk to the popular girls. But now that I’m older and understand it a little bit better, consider this a message from you’re future self to your past self. Popularity is imaginary, but confidence, that’s real power.