Heya playa, there’s your crush, go talk to them. What are you waiting for, go do it now. Go! You see, there you go. You broke the 3 second rule.
When you like someone, it can be hard to work up the courage to go talk to them, but there is a simple rule that if you’re able to follow, you’ll be able to talk to them with no problem at all.
The 3 second rule is exactly what it says, you have 3 seconds upon spotting your crush to go talk to them.
Why 3 seconds? Well, anything longer will allow your brain to kick into worry mode and therefore the nervousness is gonna set in.
Think about all the thoughts that ran through your mind the last time you hesitated to talk to your crush. Ok, how do I approach them? Should I talk to their friends first? What if I run out of things to say? Maybe I should wait for them to come talk to me.
No, what if this is just not the right time? Ah, I don’t know what to do. Uh, they’re getting away. See it wasn’t even worth going to talk to them anyway. And deep down inside we know these are excuses that we just tell ourselves so that we don’t have to do it.
But, with the 3 second rule, you can actually shoot right past all of those thoughts and right into the conversation. Now, I know what you’re thinking, ok you want me to just walk up to her and then what? What do I say? Do you want me to just stand there like an idiot? You’d be surprised how open and receptive some people are when someone comes up to them to talk.
Yes, there will be fringe cases where people will act rude, ignore you or be nervous themselves, but trust me, at the end of the day you’re gonna be incredibly proud of yourself for being about it and not just talking about it.
I’m not gonna leave you hanging though, there are two very basic conversation starters that you can use if you walk up to your crush and you just don’t know what to say. The first one is incredibly simple. Just walk on over and say “Hey, I just wanted to stop by and say what’s up. Where are you heading off to?”. With a simple statement like that your approach is very casual and the conversation is incredibly light.
The second conversation starter is to make an observational comment like “hey, those are cool shoes, where’d you get them?” or “hey, im heading to the movies this weekend with my friends, what do you recommend I go watch?”. I go more in depth on crafting the perfect opener in my video right here, but I want you to understand just how important the 3 second rule is.
By pushing yourself to talk to your crush you’re not gonna live with what ifs, in fact you’re going to learn two very important lessons, the ease of starting a conversation and how to deal with rejection. Both are two sides to the learning coin and you’ll only learn them through practice.
But I wanna know what do you guys think? Do you think it’s impossible or to hard for you to approach your crush in 3 seconds? Leave your comment down below and we’ll talk about it.
The next time you don’t think you can talk to your crush, remember that I’m on your side and I know you can do it in 3 seconds or less.