Heya playa, have you ever sat around all by yourself wondering what’s the best way to make friends? If you’ve ever felt scared or anxious about making friends, in this video I’m gonna share with you a few tips on how to meet new people and build strong friendships.
One thing I want to emphasize here is that building a friendship takes time. You not just going instantly meet someone and become best buds, you’re gonna have to nurture that relationship, get to know that person better and see how you guys click.
Tip #1, find in-school clubs or online communities of people that share the same kind of interests that you do. Look at your schools bulletin board or talk to a counselor to find out which clubs meet every week.
And if you’re not in school, there’s plenty of online Facebook groups, twitter hashtag chats and google+ communities online where people are sharing tons of things that they like and coming together over them. If you find that you’re an anxious person this may be an easy first step to do because you can sit safely at home and find those online communities to start building those friendships. Or, if you don’t find any groups that you like, create your own.
Start making flyers and post them all over school, create a online Facebook group that people will randomly search for and come across it. If you create the community, people will start to find it and that’s how you get started building friendships.
Tip #2, Be open to to the idea of volunteering. Not only will you meet kind and considerate people but you’ll also be doing a service for so many people in need. There are tons of people volunteering every single day. Ask at your local church, grab your neighborhoods newspaper or just search online and I can guarantee you can find something in your area where people are giving back and connecting over it. The people you meet there already come from a good place and plus, volunteering gives you guys something to chat and connect about that maybe you don’t have normally.
Tip #3, Talk to people all around you. All too often people get very picky and selective about who they want to talk to. You might only want to talk to the popular kids or the attractive people but you’re failing to forget that there are people all around you and you never know who you could develop a good friendship with. Start conversations with people in the grocery store, or waiting in line with you at the post office. Anywhere is a good place to practice your small talk. But, not every type of small talk conversation is a good one, in fact check out my video right here where I explain why small talk is awkward and how to deal with those kinds of situations.
Tip #4, Smile and make eye contact with people. I know, this tip has been beaten over your head millions of times but you’d be surprised how many times people forget tot pay attention to how others are observing them. People will sit there thinking, “I want them to talk to me” but they’re neglecting the fact that their arms are folded, their eyebrows are furrowed and you’re not even looking at them. Openness is the key to establishing a welcoming connection with others. Sometimes we may not know what to say in the moment but by being open and listening to others, it’ll be a lot easier to turn that person into a friend.
Tip #5, Be reliable, trustworthy and a good listener. Part of being a person’s friend means you are willing to help others feel accepted just as much as you want to. Sometimes we may fall short about what to talk to them about even though we want to talk to them. That’s why I recommend checking out my video right here. 5 ways to keep a conversation going so that you never run out of things to say.
Plus, don’t forget to check up on people every once in a while. Asking people how they’re doing or what they’ve been up to is a good way to revive a friendship that is falling flat.
What do you think, do you have trouble making friends? Leave your comment below so we can talk about it.
Like I said in the beginning, a solid friendship takes time and commitment to build. You can never force someone to be your friend but what you can do is display your positive outlook on life to inspire them and teach them that they are capable of making friends as well.